First of all I applaud all parents out there, honestly it can’t be easy to raise children especially in a world where nothing seems to be black and white anymore.
Truth is I doubt there’s a fixed method to raising children, yes there are several self help books that may attempt to give you a guideline, and other parents and even some family and friends will also share their “knowledge”, but for the most part I “think” it’s all a trial and error, we’re all so very different and what one person may respond to the other may not.
And so all parents can do is try to instil in their children, all the right values and pray they stick to it as they grow.
Which is why I understand why parents are continuously worried about the things that influence their children; from their friends and associations to songs, television and a tall list of factors.
For instance, when I was younger I watched Diana King’s ‘ Shy Guy’ music video, and fell in love with short hair, I wanted to cut off my hair immediately and couldn’t wait to be older to.
And this brings me to the whole Rashida the self professed black beauty girl who is currently making waves all over.
A few weeks ago she gained popularity on social media by sharing a video meant to take a jab at her ex boyfriend.
In the video which I refuse to share here to further encourage and spread it, she described in detail sexual activities that no girl her age should be engaging in.
More people found it amusing than disgusting and within days she was trending on social media and several platforms; it didn’t take long for her to make the news and with that came interviews and thanks to her new found fame, appearances at events.
So you, yes YOU made her POPULAR, each time you shared the video, talked about it and laughed over it with friends, you encouraged the foolishness and gained her even more popularity.
So if you’re looking for why she and many others like her are so popular, look in the mirror; because if you don’t want something to gain popularity, you don’t give it attention, it’s really that simple.
But thanks to YOU, within weeks she was more popular than people who’ve been struggling in the industry for years, people only looking for a newspaper mention or for a television station to pick up their songs and the many others you believed deserved this sudden popularity more.
So it didn’t come as a surprise that she won the most viral video at the just ended JIGWE awards, even though many didn’t believe she deserved it because it wasn’t as popular as Lil’Win’s ” I Can’t Think Far”.( I only just watched that recently also).
So let me understand this, you weren’t angry over the nomination, but are because a more “deserving” video didn’t win? Interesting.
I won’t get into the dynamic of voting and how popularity doesn’t always translate to votes, that’s not for today.
I must emphasis that JIWGE is a spoof of an awards show, where more than anything people go to laugh and poke fun at some of the most trending subjects and people over the year.
And Rashida fell right into the category,which is why many didn’t object to her nomination in the first place.
If anything she was the “Butt” of the jokes and she didn’t even know it.(and from your comments many of you didn’t either, it’s not always that serious people ?)
Now this piece isn’t to encourage or discourage her popularity; personally her existence doesn’t bother me that much because I don’t give too much life and attention to things like this.
I’m just here, as always, to get you to look beyond your own sentiments and realize what that the real issue here isn’t Rashida, it’s much bigger than that.
We’re always so quick to point fingers and place blame, but NEVER want to see our own contributions to what we deem “wrong” in this society.
We constantly attack personalities instead of the issues, and because of this we never solve anything but create even more problems.
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